Monday, August 21, 2017

Potty Training - 11th Circle of Hell - Attempt #1



We started our potty training journey a few months back right before Jack turned 2. We were first timers so after reading several pinterest posts, which obviously made me an expert, I felt like Jack and I were ready.

I took Friday off from work and armed myself with many different techniques that I found all over the internet but mostly on fun mommy blogs like this one with happy smiley kids pooping on the potty. Those seemed the most trust worthy. The kids were happy right?

Wrong.

Those pictures were lies.


Technique #1 : 

My first technique was leaving Jack naked. I got him undressed and let him roam free. I obviously kept him in the family room and kitchen area as those have hardwood and I could keep an eye on him. He wasn't tall enough to climb on the sofa so no extra precautions were needed there. Thank god.

Expect I was wrong.

After being naked for only a few minutes he discovered how to scale the sofa and he peed on it...

twice.

So I dug out some old towels and layered them all over the sofa.


I thought if he could see the messy floor and feel his legs getting wet that would trigger some sort of response. Well it didn't he ran through puddles of pee with no care in the world. He didn't care that his feet or toys or anything else was dripping with his own pee. I didn't want to discourage him so I said nothing but I was secretly screaming and crying on the inside.

I tried to take him to the potty every 30min or so but he refused. He knew what the word potty meant and watching tv or playing with cars was way more exciting. I tried books, my phone, and a tablet, nothing was better than his cars in the other room.


Technique #2 : 


My second attempt was moving the potty to the family room right in front of the tv. Who wouldn't want their porcelain throne, or plastic in this case, smack in the middle of the room with a giant tv playing their favorite channel. I know I was jealous.

Well this sorta worked. He would sit on it for a few seconds and then run around peeing wherever and whenever he wanted.


Technique #3 : 

My next thought was bribery. I was prepared with his favorite snack, gold fish. The only problem was that some time in the moments leading up to this he decided he no longer liked gold fish. He screamed and threw them at me and ran off naked and probably peed somewhere.

I didn't have anything else in the house except M&Ms. So I put a small bowl by the potty and said if he sat on it he could eat one. Well this worked.

A little too well.

Smart ass.

He sat on the potty and ate an M&M. He immediately stood up and sat back down and ate another. He was a little gopher up and down until the entire bowl was empty and his hands were covered in melted chocolate rainbow chunks.


Technique #4 : 

I called my mother. 

At 27 I can safely say I am fully potty trained and I feel pretty confident about my siblings too. She is obviously an expert.

She told me to stop the M&M train and only dole them out for a success. This was logical but I was worried taking it away would result in him never sitting on the potty again. I was right. He refused to sit down when I refused his fix.

Try again mother.

She then suggested my next technique...


Technique #5 : 

Undies.


A few days before this adventure we went to the store and I let him pick out big boy undies. He obviously picked the ones with Cars on them.

So I busted them out and laid them all on the coffee table and told him to pick one. My thought being that he wouldn't want to hurt and drown and poop on Mater or Lightning. He picked his favorite pair and we put them on.

I repeatedly told him "don't peepee or poop on Lightning. Lightning doesn't like peepee or poop. It will hurt him". Roughly 15 minutes later we had run through all 8 pairs. Lightning and Mater didn't stand a chance.


Technique #6 : 


This was my last try. I was beyond frustrated and Jack could tell.

He was winning and he did a little peepee dance to prove it.

So I combined the last two days into one massive "DO IT ALL" day.

I got him up that last fateful morning and got him undressed. I set up a jar of sweet cereal (golden crisp in our case) next to the potty in the family room right in front of the tv. I laid out some underwear and put Cars and Cars 2 on repeat. I told him he could eat as much cereal as he wanted if he sat on the potty and he only got M&Ms if he actually went potty.

He was mad but once those sweet sugary morsels touched his lips he stopped whining. He sat on that potty eating cereal watching Cars and Cars 2 all the way through and he never peed. For 3ish hours this kid didn't produce a drop!

I gave up.

I kept him naked but I let him roam the house. I resigned myself to cleaning up after him all day. But no. He drank sippy cup after sippy cup of water and nothing!

He didn't pee hardly at all! Only a few drips here and there.




Later that night after Max got home I was beat. I was physically and emotional exhausted. The house was a disaster, dishes were piling up and Jack was giggling naked somewhere.

He continued to sit on the potty for cereal but no success.

Until...

During viewing #467 of Cars the potty started to sing. It was congratulating him on going potty and cheering. I ran over and Jack just sat there blank faced with a handful of cereal.

Max and I started jumping up and down like morons. We were so unprepared for this moment. I scrambled to find the M&Ms. Jack just sat there utterly confused on what was happening around him. I finally grabbed and M&M and handed it to him as we screamed, cheered, and clapped. I stood him up and brought him into the bathroom to watch the ceremonial flush. But as he stood up I looked in the potty and there were seriously like 4 drops. It was just enough to set off the potty's censors. He had no idea he had even gone.

But we made a big deal anyway.


But that's where our first try at potty training ended. I had to go back to work. Our "Potty Train in 3 Day's" pinterest weekend was over. Jack just wasn't ready. He didn't recognize the sensation of having to go or even the sensation of actually going. He didn't care that he was wet or that the floor was wet.

Everything online says don't look back, persevere, never put a diaper back on again. But those mothers mostly stay-at-home, which is great, but I couldn't take a naked non-potty trained toddler back to daycare on Monday and expect them to continue what we started. Life just doesn't work that way.

So we moved from diapers to pull-ups in hopes of making some baby steps. We have waited and bided our time and we just recently started trying again in small easily consumed chunks instead of full blown exhausting weekends. I hope to fill you in on attempt #2 soon!

Thursday, August 10, 2017

29 Weeks - Baby Wilson #2


How far along: 29 weeks
Total weight gain: 18 lb.
Sleep: Getting harder and harder. The bump is bigger this time and already so uncomfortable. I get up at least 2-3 times to pee and shift positions.
Sickness: nope.
Cravings: FRESH FRUIT
Make me queasy: nothing really.
General Symptoms: stretching pains, heartburn, and general uncomfortableness. The bump is bigger this time around and it's already feeling huge and heavy. When I walk I generally keep a hand under the bump to hold it up because it feels like it's pulling on my skin. Sitting, standing, walking, generally being a live is very uncomfortable these days. Trying to play with Jack on the floor is damn near impossible and getting comfy on the couch is even worse. I also have this TERRIBLE pain on my skin on the top of the bump. I don't know if it's because the bump is getting heavy and pulling on that top skin or if it's a nerve issue but OMG it feels like a chaffed sunburn. Just the thought of touching that section of skin sounds painful. I rub lotion on it twice a day and try to hold back the screams as I do but it only mildly helps. But this too shall pass and I know I'll miss being pregnant again one day.
Miss anything: BLUE CHEESE and salami sandwiches. I dreamt last night about a huge salami sandwich with mustard and pickles. It was amazing and maybe my first post birth hospital meal.
Maternity Clothes: A few new dresses and a t-shirt from Motherhood. They had a Buy 1 get 1 free deal that I couldn't resist.
Movement: I had a small panic attack last week because it usually moves so much I get frustrated and annoyed and for 2 days it had only moved once and it was a very tiny flutter like back in the early days. So after a crazed text to Max he told me to call the Dr.... well they were closed. So I called the after hours triage nurse and she was super helpful. She gave me an at home test to do and told me exactly how many kicks I should be feeling in a give time frame. I completed the test exactly how she explained it that night and everything is fine. And now if I ever feel that way again I know what to do instead of just Googling "decreased fetal movement" and crying my eyes out.
Gender Prediction: Girl, totally and utterly convinced.


Dr. Appointment Update : at 28 weeks we did the glucose test. Since I haven't heard anything I'm assuming I passed and don't have to do the 3 hr test which is wonderful. Next week we go back in for our last ultrasound to check on the placenta previa. Fingers crossed it's moved enough for a healthy vaginal delivery!


Old Wives Tales:
Morning Sickness : No / Yes
Cravings : Salt Sweet
Chinese Calendar : Boy / Girl
Heart Beat : Low / High
Belly : Low High
Skin : Better Worse
Attitude : Happy Moody

It's all adding up to : GIRL



Names I like at the moment:
       Girl: Olivia ------ I think Max has come around but he still sounds a little hesitant so we'll see :)
                 But we still have these on the list just in case : Eliza, Felicity, Violet, Ruby, Fiona, Hazel, Penelope, Claire, Molly, Brooke.
       
        Boy: Henry

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

27 Weeks - Baby Wilson #2


How far along: 27 weeks
Total weight gain: 15 lb.
Sleep: Getting harder every week. I lay on my left side and then sit up once my hip starts to hurt. I'm also getting up at least once to go to the bathroom.
Sickness: nope.
Cravings: FRESH FRUIT and chicken wings
Make me queasy: nothing really.
General Symptoms: stretching pains and terrible heartburn. I never really had much with Jack but this baby has been totally different. It's still probably not as bad as some other women but it feels terrible to me :)
Miss anything: BLUE CHEESE and sandwiches.
Maternity Clothes: No new ones.
Movement: SO MUCH! It moves ALL THE TIME! Just yesterday I was sitting at my desk and out loud said "OMG just stop it!" and my boss (mother of 3 boys) giggled at me. But In all seriousness I love it. Getting to feel it so much and so often makes me feel better and nothing beats that feeling of getting karate kicked in the bladder ;)
Gender Prediction: Girl, totally and utterly convinced.


Dr. Appointment Update : We have another appointment this Thursday. It's the glucose test so wish me luck!


Old Wives Tales:
Morning Sickness : No / Yes
Cravings : Salt Sweet
Chinese Calendar : Boy / Girl
Heart Beat : Low / High
Belly : Low High
Skin : Better / Worse
Attitude : Happy Moody

It's all adding up to : GIRL



Names I like at the moment:
       Girl: Olivia ------ This is the name I really want but Max is still mulling it over. This is the first name, even including all the names we debated with Jack and this time around, that I have had a connection to. I can look down and feel it kick and it feels like an Olivia. I can see her little face and see her playing with Jack and it feels like our family. But Max has to feel those things too and I don't want to force him or push him into anything so I'm trying to give him the space to think it over but I would be lying if I said I wasn't hoping.
                 But we still have these on the list that we really like as well : Eliza, Felicity, Violet, Ruby, Fiona, Hazel, Penelope, Claire, Molly, Brooke.
       
        Boy: Henry

Friday, July 7, 2017

24 Weeks - Baby Wilson #2


How far along: 24 weeks
Total weight gain: 11 lb.
Sleep: Getting a little worse. I'm not what you would call agile. I'm up and down all night trying to take the pressure off my hip. Sometime soon I'm going to bust out the maternity pillow. Sorry Max.
Sickness: Feel great!
Cravings: FRESH FRUIT!
Make me queasy: nothing really.
General Symptoms: Dry skin and stretching pains. My skin feels like it's going to split open Alien style at any moment.
Miss anything: BLUE CHEESE and sandwiches.
Maternity Clothes: I've taken my winter long sleeve maternity shirts from Jack's pregnancy and cut and hemmed them into short sleeves! 4 new tops for $0, can't beat that.
Movement: A lot!! I feel like it moves a lot more than Jack ever did. I was constantly worried about Jack and wondering when was the last time I felt him move. But this one is always on the go. I just wait an hour or so and it starts flipping out. Maybe that means it'll be a handful... 😓
Gender Prediction: Girl. I don't think I'd believe the doctors if they told me it was a boy. I've even started calling it "she" including the air quotes ;)


Dr. Appointment Update : At our 24 week appointment they checked the placenta again to see if it had moved. And it has!! A whole bunch but not quite enough. It's still considered a complete previa but only by a sliver. So the doctor is hopeful it will move completely out of the way since it has already moved so much. So I'm still on pelvic rest and no exercise. At 28 weeks we'll do the glucose test then at 30 they'll check me again to see if it's finally out of the way. Keeping our fingers crossed!!


Old Wives Tales:
Morning Sickness : No / Yes
Cravings : Salt Sweet
Chinese Calendar : Boy / Girl
Heart Beat : Low / High
Belly : Low High
Skin : Better / Worse
Attitude : Happy Moody

It's all adding up to : GIRL



Names I like at the moment:
       Girl: Violet, Ruby, Eliza, Fiona, Hazel, Penelope, Claire, Molly, Brooke
       Boy: Henry

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

22 Weeks - Baby Wilson #2



How far along: 22 weeks
Total weight gain: 8 lb.
Sleep: Every night is different. Some nights I can't sleep on my side for more than a few hours before it starts throbbing, other nights I last until 4-5AM. Out bed has been a God send this time around.
Sickness: Feel great!
Cravings: fresh fruits and chicken wings.
Make me queasy: not too much these days. I'm not really into hamburgers right now but I think it's because we've just had too many over the last few weeks.
General Symptoms: Dry skin! It's been so crazy! I've always had oily greasy skin so dealing with itchy burning dry peeling skin is totally new for me. Also my hair and nails are not as great as they used to be. This baby is sucking everything out of me lol.
Miss anything: BLUE CHEESE and sandwiches.
Maternity Clothes: Nothing new this week.
Movement: A whole bunch! I think it's still breech because the kicks still down low even though they are super strong. I love feeling it. It's even kicking me as I type and I can't help but smile :)
Gender Prediction: Girl. I don't think I'd believe the doctors if they told me it was a boy.


Dr. Appointment Update : We haven't had our next appointment yet. It's scheduled for 6/29 so we are patiently waiting to hear if the placenta has moved. Everyone cross your fingers!


Old Wives Tales:
Morning Sickness : No / Yes
Cravings : Salt Sweet
Chinese Calendar : Boy / Girl
Heart Beat : Low / High
Belly : Low High
Skin : Better / Worse - I would say a little worse but with a toddler running around a more hectic schedule my face wash routine hasn't been the greatest so who really knows.
Attitude : Happy Moody

It's all adding up to : GIRL



Names I like at the moment:
       Girl: Molly, Fiona, Claire, Ruby, Violet, Felicity
       Boy: Henry

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

20 Weeks - Baby Wilson #2


How far along: 20 weeks
Total weight gain: 6 lb.
Sleep: Getting harder. My hips hurt earlier in the night and I wake up more times to go to the bathroom but nothing too terrible...yet.
Sickness: Doing great!
Cravings: fresh fruits and chicken wings.
Make me queasy: hummus - but going to give it another go now that I'm not so sick and see what happens.
General Symptoms: FATIGUE! And my skin is starting to itch from stretching. Almost time to break out the belly cream.
Miss anything: BLUE CHEESE and sandwiches.
Maternity Clothes: I finally found a bra I like! I decided this time around instead of stretching out all my clothes I would buy a few maternity staples and shop some sales. So far I've been able to wear a few things left over from Jack but most of it was winter clothes and the AZ summer is way to hot for that. So I've found a few tops at a consignment store, Old Navy, and Target. Old Navy is the best! Highly recommend. The motherhood store is great but kinda pricey unless you get coupons and shop the sales.
Movement: A whole bunch and Max has finally gotten to feel it! Only once but it was still pretty cute. I can't wait until Jack can start to feel it.
Gender Prediction: Girl. I'm so deep in the girl camp.


Dr. Appointment Update : We had our anatomy ultrasound appoint a few weeks back. We didn't find out the sex so it's another surprise for us! We also found out that I have placenta previa. Over the last couple weeks I've come to terms with it and am just trying to move through this pregnancy as gracefully as I can. Basically at this early stage it's a waiting game. I have a few restrictions like pelvic rest and little to no activity. Basically no sex or exorcise. I also need to watch for bleeding or heavy cramping. So far I have had no symptoms and I'm feeling great. If the placenta doesn't move then I will have to deliver via C-Section. There are some other complications with bleeding during delivery that could lead to some scary things but we're just nothing thinking about that right now. We're just hoping it moves and we can deliver vaginally and relax a little. I've been having some pains down low and in my back which is where the placenta is and since I wouldn't classify them as cramping more just pressure and stretching pains we're hoping it means it's moving!! I will have another ultrasound on the 29th to see if it has moved. So fingers crossed!


Old Wives Tales:
Morning Sickness : No / Yes
Cravings : Salt Sweet
Chinese Calendar : Boy / Girl
Heart Beat : Low / High
Belly : Low High - seems definitely high now, especially compared to Jack. But check out my belly timeline and tell me what you think.
Skin : Better / Worse - I would say a little worse but with a toddler running around a more hectic schedule my face wash routine hasn't been the greatest so who really knows.
Attitude : Happy Moody

It's all adding up to : GIRL



Names I like at the moment:
       Girl: Molly, Fiona, Matilda (Mattie), Grace, Violet, Clara, Cora, Mabel, Margot
       Boy: Henry

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Dr. Amanda Moore!

In the Wilson Family...


The Wilson's don't start anything they aren't willing to finish...multiple times. Max's dad has a JD (law), his mom has an EdD (education), Max has a masters in biology and is working towards a PhD in Biology and his sister, Amanda, JUST got her PhD in Chemistry. They are a family of smarty pants.

Having known Max and his family through his mom's EdD, Max's undergrad, masters, and now PhD, and Amanda's undergrad and PhD I can tell you it takes a lot. They are the most persevering, dedicated, goal oriented, bunch of crazy people I know.

And we are so proud of Amanda. So much so that we packed the whole family up and flew out to Houston to watch her graduate at Rice University.

Sorry about the poor quality. A picture with a cranky toddler in the Texas heat doesn't lend itself to high quality :)


So I have a few tips on how to take your 2 year old on a "family vacation" and attend a very important graduation.

1. FAMILY FRIENDLY - try to stay somewhere that loves kids. I mean really loves kids. You'll be there awhile and they are going to make a lot of noise. We all stayed in an AirBNB house on the beach in Galveston. This was perfect and I'm so grateful my mother-in-law thought about it. Our neighbors weren't close enough to hear Jack cry in the middle of the night and the beach was a great outlet for Jack to run off energy. With big events planned daily for the graduation having somewhere were he could let loose and run off steam was amazing! Plus who doesn't love seeing their kid enjoy the ocean for the first time. It was so much fun!








2. BE FLEXIBLE - There are going to be a ton of plans, opinions, and stress so try to go with the flow as much as possible. We nodded and did what we were told. If Jack missed a nap, o'well. If he took 8 because he fell asleep every time we got in the car even better! We ate french fries and beef jerky and dry cereal for a snack and lunch, who cares. No toddler has ever died from eating french fries as a meal. It's only a long weekend everything will be ok. That holy grail of a routine you keep is going out the window and you need to cope with that. For example; Jack slept the whole way from the rental house to the ceremony which was about an hour and a half. So once we got there he was ready to go! He wanted to run and play and do all the toddler things. But we needed him to be quite and sit in his seat....not going to happen. There was luckily a tv and an empty room just outside the hall so we could take Jack out to run and still watch what was going on. Max took the brunt of the Jack watching because it was getting too hard to keep up with him at 17 weeks pregnant. Then once it came time for Amanda I snuck out and traded places so he could enjoy his sister's special moment. As Jack and I stood in the wings of the hall waiting for Amanda to appear he started to whine. I quickly asked him "whats wrong?". He promptly and loudly said "POOP!". Awesome. Some poor person's video recording of their son/daughter has Jack screaming poop in the background. Go.with.the.flow.





3. TAKE A VILLAGE - No matter how you feel about your in-laws, parents, extended family etc. you will need a village. A large village. You're 2 year old will scream "NOOOOO" several times, mostly for no reason. They will ask to go places that they just asked to leave. They will want to walk and be held at the same time. They will want to look out the window at the airport but not the one near all your luggage but the one across the airport near the ramp with the plane that's boarding. They will want to frantically run the halls and cry. They will want a fresh clean diaper right in the middle of graduation but not bad enough to hold still as you wrangle them on the dirty bathroom floor because for some god forsaken reason that women's bathroom doesn't have a changing table. They will only sit still for food and electronics which you can't dole out too much because they will have zero affect on their attention when you finally get to your destination. This is why it's important to have someone who can walk the halls, can carry them to and from the beach multiple times, who can hold them, and who can play games to grab their attention. You will need someone at some point so it might as well be someone you know. Because at your lowest and most burnt out you contemplate strangers, and how bad can they really be? This is not good. So you're village, no matter their relation, is super helpful but use them wisely you will call on them many many times.




But most of all enjoy. You don't get to "vacation" very much these days so soak up every ray of sunshine and peaceful, giggle filled moment you get.